1. Create regular and predictable schedules
Setting a consistent routine for your children should never be
misinterpreted as a rigid parenting practice. In fact, this type of goal setting creates an extremely safe environment that even your small children already know what to expect.
2. Identify solid and clear expectations
Kids will always push their boundaries to the limit if they don’t sense consistency or predictability in their daily routines. Only things and activities that make sense to will be followed and understood on the long term.
3. Take precious time bonding with your children
Children will only realize their value if and when their parents spend precious time with them, and show genuine affection and
care during periods of bonding.
4. Assist children during stages of transition
Nobody wants to suffer from a child’s meltdown. This only happens when achild fails to transition from one activity/period to another. For instance, critical transition periods of hurriedly dressing up and then asking them to prepare quickly for school. These activities are daunting especially if your children do not get any guidance from parents. Try to be more patient as such fast-paced routines are very hard to follow for children in general. Do not jump into a conclusion that they lack respect towards you, and are simply taking their time to make all routines and activities right.
5. Let them make their own choices
Encourage them to make their own choices when it comes to simple things. For instance, let them decide what color of shirt
to wear, or what type of dinner they want for the evening. Majority of children seek control and power over the activities they are supposed to do. These traits are not bad at all, as this lets them find their voice as well as increases their self-confidence too. The fact that they are being heard makes them feel more
important at a young age.
Placing children under punishment is a form of control. Although your kids may immediately obey your rules or your terms, this only creates a false sense of learning for kids. It is only right to allow your kids to experience the natural consequences of their actions. Just make sure that your kids’ safety and health are not in serious danger.
7. Let them show their feelings
It should be perfectly fine for parents to let their children express their negative feelings. If you allow them to give language to feelings without fear of rejection, they will be able to express their emotions fully as they grow up. This is a positive lesson in that they wouldn’t have problems with different people in various situations and settings.
8. Re-direct negative behavior
Rather than identifying negative behavior as prohibited, it may be best to be more helpful to your children when they covey such behaviors. If you are to implement equally negative attitude towards their negative behaviors, including guilt, fear, threat and alike, you are sure to break their sense of trust. You are only destroying the bond you share with your children. On the other hand, if you show them helpfulness and understanding, you are nurturing their growth while teaching them about what should be done right instead.
9. Let your kids express their feelings, ideas, and opinions of the world
Never force your perspective on them, as they have their own unique set of experiences. Do not let them experience life from your own vantage point, as this will never result in awareness and understanding. You don’t always have to agree with their opinions, but show them high levels of understanding as well as patience. Simply respect their freedom to express their feelings, as these nurture them into unique individuals.
10. Be a role model
Children look up to their parents while growing up. They are adults who they most the most interactions with. With this in mind, it is ideal that we try to show them behaviors that breed integrity and respect. It is extremely difficult to be level-headed and at peace at all times, but it’s best to minimize fights or any negative attitudes when you are around them.