Our society has become a society that gives too much attention on people’s missions to find the loves of their lives and winning their hearts. This makes staying in singlehood a lot more difficult than it should be. The entireplanet looks like it’s supporting you in your journey to find your dashing prince or your damsel in distress.
But for those who choose to be single, who want to learn to be happy with themselves and harness the creativity found in singlehood, get very little love from the world. Society almost seems to be considering people with significant others as failures in life. I find this to be outrageous, especially when you consider how people are beginning to see that relationships they had earlier on in life have broken down over time.
Because of this, I have put together a list of ten helpful tips to be happy with singlehood.
1. Try relaxing. Singlehood is not forever, unless it was meant to be, which is in my opinion, very unusual. The last thing you should do is put a lot of pressure on yourself to get a partner as soon as you can. That kind of panicky mentality shows how desperate you are and it will affect the relationship you’re in, if you indeed find someone. Being desperate blinds you to several truths and it leads to you to forget the standards you set for looking for a partner. That is never good sinceyou will have to adjust and most of the time, it will lead to failed relationships.
You should be grateful that you have time to discover who you are. Not everyone is given this chance. Consider this question – why would others find some level of comfort being around you when you’re not comfortable being on your own with yourself? This can be very difficult for a person who is obsessed with finding true love but he or she in actuality doesn’t him or herself. When you are in a relationship with yourself, it’s very similar to being in a relationship with another person. There should be a lot of support. There should be a lot of care. There should be a lot of understanding. You should listen to yourself, and to what you’re saying. And there are times that only when you force yourself to be alone, can you really listen to what your inner self is saying.
2. Try staying clean. Avoid drinking too much or partying too wild (with all the things wild parties include). This won’t do any favors for you if you’re aiming for a great partnership with your inner yourself, or with someone else. You should take this time to sober up. It may be hard at first, but you’ll get the hang of it. It would be great if you got over being without the things you’re addicted to by yourself. Remember–doing it for yourself is as good a reason as any, and if you can’t do it for yourself, odds are you can’t do it for others.
3. Try giving yourself some time. To be happy by yourself never happens instantly or at the drop of a hat. This is especially true if you just got out of a relationship. You’ll go through a few stages that suck, stages wherein you feel sad or lonely, or hopeless, thinking that you may never find true happiness again. You may not notice your life wilting away, of if you do notice, you’re just too emotionally tired to do anything about it.
When this happens, go out with yourself. Take a stroll and breathe in fresh air. Make yourself happy and try cheering yourself up. The more time you spend by yourself, the more time you have to be more understanding and more patient when the time comes that you have someone else in your life. One of the best thing you can do foryourself in my opinion, is to cook. Cook a hearty meal that you love.
4. Try learning new things. There is no better time in your life to return to school and learn new things. You can also opt to enroll online for online courses. Or if you really feel adventurous, try studying to form a foundation for a new career! Take the time and you may just find new things that you have a burning passion for. Nobody will tell you not to do it. But this like everything else, takes time. Have patience.
5. Try making new friends. This isn’t for romance as much as it is for the expansion of your supportive community. Intentionally avoiding relationships for a specific time frame doesn’t mean becoming a hermit. You can have friends to talk to. Friends are important. Without friends, we would be very much alone. Get over being shy and make friends.
6. Try working out. This is one of the best ways to discover who you are. Get reacquainted with your physique. Unlike material possessions, the bodies we have right now are the only ones we have until we leave this planet. Being single is a great phase in our lives to do physical training. Don’t discount the fact that when you train, you release endorphin hormones and you feel good about everything. Another option would be to revisit a team sport that you were good at back in the day. You’re making friends and you’re getting healthier and more fit.
7. Try looking for your creativity again. You’ll find it in you, of that I’m sure. Creativity is inside us all. There is a chance that amid the hustleand bustle of everyday life, you somehow lost your creativity. This is a perfect time to rekindle your creative fire. Paint, write a song, writea story or sketch. Do anything and everything artistic. No one is around to criticize you.
8. Try focusing on what you’re thinking. If you lived under a rock for the last decade, you should know that a lot of things happened. One of these things is that what a person thinks can actually create his or her reality. So ask yourself, what are the things you think of the most?What are you most attentive towards? These questions will be pretty easy to answer if you reflect on yourself. You will see that what is happening in your life is a reflection of what is happening in your mind. Be very aware of the things you are thinking. Always follow your thoughts. Edit the negative ones out, and put in the ones that make the relationship you and yourself have, better.
9. Try being thankful for the things that are yours. Every evening, moments before turning in, focus your thoughts on the things that you should be thankful for. All the small things can aid in the creation of a thankful attitude. Try writing in a journal or a blog to keep track and record all the things in your life that make you a better person, all the blessings and all the joys. You can see the list of things get longer and longer as the days pass. Once your thankful attitude is fully bloomed, you would come to notice that there are more and more things that you should be thankful you have.
In my opinion, this may be the most significant lesson in this article. You should be happy with the things that you already have. Finding just one is already a great start.
10. Try doing things you’re not used to doing. Go to new places or try doing new things. Do not sit around the house counting the days, hours and minutes until you meet your Prince Charming or Cinderella. Make things happen now. There is a bigger chance of meeting the person you’ve dreamt of if you are out there making the most of the time you have. Even if you don’t meet someone that may be a prospective partner, you’ll still be having a grand time going on new adventures and exploring new horizons.
When you are by yourself, there is a big possibility that you can find not only creativity but also a lot of growth personally. During this time when you are by yourself, you have the chance to get acquainted with, bond with, and love yourself as someone one is apart from you. Once you reconcile these notions, you can no longer depend on a significant other or a partner to know who you really are. You no longer are desperate in finding what makes you happy in others. You are enough to be happy. It will be all about you.